I overheard my brother combating along with his spouse — ought to I say one thing?

DEAR ABBY: I just lately acquired a voicemail from my brother that recorded a dialog he was having along with his spouse. It was clear he didn’t know he had unintentionally dialed my cellphone throughout this dialog.

It was an argument, which lasted two minutes earlier than there was a pause within the dialog and he hung up. 

I haven’t addressed it with him but as a result of I’m shocked at my sister-in-law’s habits throughout this dialog, and the way in which she treats my brother.

I’ve recognized for some time that she blames others for conditions she ought to share the blame in, however I had by no means heard her in a non-public dialog till this voicemail. 

My brother should know these two minutes dwell on my cellphone, though we haven’t spoken about it. I wish to discuss with him and inform him that I heard what she stated.

I’d like him to know I hope she treats him with respect, and that she sounds ungrateful for all of the arduous work he places in at his job of their one-income family with two kids. How ought to I deal with this? — OVERHEARD IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR OVERHEARD: Speak to your brother and categorical that the struggle between him and his spouse was partially recorded in your cellphone.

Then inform him you don’t imply to pry, however assume he and his spouse may gain advantage from marital counseling if they’re each prepared. (I hope he’ll pay attention and have some classes, even when his spouse refuses.)

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are retired. He sits in his recliner chair all day, day by day. He says he’s “learning his Bible” or watching YouTube movies.

He additionally sleeps 12 to 14 hours after he goes to mattress round 8 p.m. most nights.

This has been occurring for not less than a yr, and I’m SICK of it. I need a companion to do issues with. 

Nothing I’ve accomplished or stated motivates him to rise up and transfer. Since I’m not prepared to just accept this way of life for myself, I take lessons on the Y three to 5 occasions per week, go to lunch with buddies, learn and attend our neighborhood ebook membership, paint and do crafts, and discuss with or electronic mail buddies.

Most nights, I watch TV upstairs on my own. I could as nicely be single! Any solutions? — UNCOUPLED IN SOUTH CAROLINA

DEAR UNCOUPLED: Get that husband of yours to his physician for a radical bodily and neurological examination. Individuals of all ages want some type of train. When individuals who weren’t sedentary spend all day, day by day sitting, it’s harmful to their well being.

Your husband may undergo from any variety of illnesses, together with despair. Ensuring he has been checked out might be life altering not just for him but in addition for you.

DEAR ABBY: When the hostess gives you leftovers after a pleasant meal, how a lot do you have to take? — WONDERING IN THE SOUTH

DEAR WONDERING: Don’t be grasping. Go away sufficient meals for different friends to take some dwelling if they want, and don’t overlook to do the identical in your hostess.

Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.